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> Baby vs. Husband
> Dear Dr. Tracy,
> I am 38 years old and have been with my husband for 11 years. I love
> him very dearly and and we have so many things in common. He loves me
> and is a wonderful husband. Despite all the good things, we have been
> dealing with a very big issue for about 4 years now.
> I want to have children, and have always wanted to ever since I could
> remember. My husband has always known how much I want to be a mother.
> We really started trying to have a baby about 4 years ago. At that
> time, my husband informed me that he really didn't want to have
> children. His excuse is that we can't afford it, which I disagree
> with.

Females are stupid when it comes to finances. They think with their pussy,
especially at 38. When she has this kid she won't be working so the man will
have to work 2x as much and that's at a lower standard of living since kids
are expensive. It costs the price of a Ferrari to raise a kid for 18 years.
Can she afford a Ferrari? And if the kid should be a retard, your life will
turn into one of a full time caregiver. Not to mention the $50k or so she
will spend on doctors and fertility treatments they may or may not work.
Females are money drainers and this guy should leave if he expects to have a
well deserved comfortable middle age rather than a low standard of living
and an early grave. He should be enjoying himself at his age not being a
slave to a wife and kid.



 We both have great jobs, and are very financially secure. I
> honestly believe that he has never wanted children and is using the
> financial situation as an excuse. This came as a very big shock to me
> mostly because he has always known how much I want to be a mother.

I think it's time he left this pre menopausal starter wife and found an
18yo. He shouldn't even have sex with her unless  he's secretly had a
vasectomy because she's desperate to get knocked up and will "forget" to
take the pill or whatever she's using. Yes, she must really "love" him
because she's willing to get divorced for the sake of some (possible) kid.



>
> Do I stay with the man I love, and accept the fact that he doesn't
> want children? Or should I leave him and try to find someone else who
> I could be happy with and start a family?

At 38? Good luck. I'm sure there are men lined up to marry you   haha


>
> My only concern with my second option is that I am close to
> approaching 40, and I keep thinking there is not a man out there who
> will want a 40 year old woman who wants to have children. Dating now
> days is tough, and I am so very scared.

You deserve to be out there trying to date just to see how good you have it
now. Females never learn or grow up  lol


>
> Dr. Tracy - what should I do?
>
> Sincerely and gratefully.
>
>
> Dear Wanna Be Mom,
> The urge to have children is primal and very strong, and if you've had
> this desire your whole life, believe me, it won't go away. If you
> don't have the children you want, you will regret it forever. You and
> your husband have to get this situation resolved and the sooner the
> better. After all, your fertile years don't go on forever and he may
> be trying to out wait your fertility cycle.

You think?  lol


> Let him know that the question of having children is a deal-breaker.

Yes, true love  lol



> Tell him you love him and want to be together but that you don't want
> to be childless. Don't let him push you around on this issue. You will
> be sorry if you do.
>
> When you get older, you'll realize how much you've missed by not being
> a mother. You will miss having someone to love unconditionally

That's what your husband is for.Once this female has a kid the husband will
be pushed to the background and it will all be about the kid and her. Of
course, he'll be the sucker to finance it all.

 and you
> will be without the connection to the next generation and the future
> that having children gives you. You will also be envious of those
> women who do have children and wonder why they were so blessed and you
> were not. And when you are old, you will wonder who is going to take
> care of you in your dotage and why you didn't have children and
> grandchildren to be with.

What's makes you think anyone will take care of you when (if) you get old?
Many kids don't live  near their parents or do many have the means to take
care of them since they have their own family to support.. Some of them
never see their parents and may in fact hate them. Having a spouse is no
guarantee either since 1/2 the people are divorced or one will die before
the other and you'll still be left alone. Your best chance is having a lot
of money(that means no kids) and hiring people to take care of you in your
old age. People who will be grateful for the money and can be fired if you
don't like them.
>
> It would be one thing if you couldn't have children. But that's not
> the case and even then, you could adopt.

Are you insane? A large % of adopted kids have physical and mental problems
inherited from their natural irresponsible parents.


 Your husband is being selfish
> and unreasonable. He can't possibly understand how much having
> children can mean to a woman. If necessary, get him to a sympathetic
> counselor who will help explain the importance having children can
> have in a woman's life.

A man's first priority should be what is good for HIM. Females do not love
men and only become attached to one for his service as a sperm donor and
wallet.
>
> Don't stay with a man who is going to deny you this basic right. Let
> him know that if he absolutely refuses to have children, your marriage
> is in extreme danger. Don't put this off another day. You can't expect
> him to agree to have children unless you're willing to confront the
> issue and leave if necessary.

If a female believes she can dictate terms to you, divorce her.
>
> I suspect that given the choice of having children and saving his
> marriage, or refusing and having you leave him, he will come around.

On the other hand he'll probably kick you out.



> But you have to be strong and demanding, not afraid. Giving up a
> lifelong dream of being a mother is too big a sacrifice to make for
> love. Yes, there are men out there who will want to have children with
> you, and if you really want to be a mother, there's no reason you
> can't be a mother without a husband.

Test tubes can't pay child support, this is why few females go that route.



>
> See if you can resolve this issue with your husband. If not, get out
> and have the children you want. Sure dating is tough, but not nearly
> as difficult as you might think. There are websites like match.com and
> eharmony.com and many others where you can look for men who really
> want to be fathers.

At her age the only men she's likely to find are losers or old geezers
working at Walmart   lol

 Being childless when you don't want to be is much
> harder than dating. Don't let your fear of dating keep you from
> motherhood and family.
>
> Good luck,
>
> Dr. Tracy
>
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