Re: A Bundle of Joy Isn't Enough?
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> http://www.nytimes.com/2007/12/06/fashion/06push.html?em&ex=1197176400&en=2ce83a2c57a58291&ei=5087%0A
>
> A Bundle of Joy Isn't Enough?
>
> By THOMAS VINCIGUERRA
> Published: December 6, 2007
>
> WHEN Jena Slosberg of Bedford, N.H., gave birth in March, she endured
> a labor that lasted 17 hours.
Normal labour is 25 hours.
But her discomfort was ultimately worth
> it, quite apart from the arrival of her daughter, Marin. In the
> recovery room, her husband, Paul, presented her with a pair of diamond
> earrings.
>
> "I was on cloud nine," Ms. Slosberg said. "It was the perfect present
> to make a frazzled, sleep-deprived, first-time mommy feel absolutely
> glamorous."
>
> She added, "I wonder what 17 hours of labor will get me next time?"
Your tubes tied lol
>
> In a more innocent age, new mothers generally considered their babies
> to be the greatest gift imaginable. Today, they are likely to want
> some sort of tangible bonus as well.
>
> This bonus goes by various names. Some call it the "baby mama gift."
> Others refer to it as the "baby bauble." But it's most popularly known
> as the "push present."
>
> That's "push" as in, "I the mother, having been through the wringer
> and pushed out this blessed event, hereby claim my reward." Or "push"
> as in, "I've delivered something special and now I'm pushing you, my
> husband/boyfriend, to follow suit."
If she delivers a mongoloid does she still get the gift?
>
> "It's more and more an expectation of moms these days that they
> deserve something for bearing the burden for nine months, getting
> sick, ruining their body,"
As opposed to men who ruin their body supporting the wife and kid. Ever
notice how much older married men look compared to bachelors?
>
> A recent survey of more than 30,000 respondents by BabyCenter.com
> found that 38 percent of new mothers received a gift from their mate
> in connection with their child. Among pregnant mothers, 55 percent
> wanted one. About 40 percent of both groups said the baby was ample
> reward.
>
> Sandra Miller of Arlington, Mass., is not among the 40 percent.
>
> "Women can and do expect a thoughtful token of appreciation," she
> said. "It's a way to honor a mother giving her emotions, body and
> hormones over to a baby for nine months, culminating in an experience
> which, when done naturally, redefines the meaning of pain. And when
> not done naturally, it's still an act of sacrifice."
Most females on earth deliver babies quietly and without any complications.
Instead of worrying about getting a gift, this Sandra should be glad there's
a man there to take care of her and give him a gift. All females who get
pregnant WANT to have a baby, it's their choice. Any female not using birth
control want an "accident" to happen and want a baby, it's not a sacrifice.
>
> Push presents seem to have taken off within the last decade,
> particularly in the last couple of years. In 2005 the Southeast-based
> jewelry chain Mayors marketed diamond earrings with the tag line, "She
> delivered your first born; now give her twins."
I'll give her twins. You want the right or left first? I was planning on
buying a new Aston Martin till she got knocked up!
Fortunoff, the jewelry
> and gift chain with a Fifth Avenue flagship, established a push
> present registry six months ago.
>
> But the push present - unlike the 15-year anniversary ring - is
> apparently not the invention of the jewelry industry looking for
> another opportunity to sell goods.
Sure ;)
No one is quite sure how the trend
> began;
Oh let me guess. Some men were sitting around and one came up with this
great idea.
in practice the baubles are presented before or after the big
> day, or sometimes right in the delivery room.
>
> "They've arisen from the time cavemen brought trinkets to their
> wives,"
There's one problem with that. Cavemen didn't have wives. In fact, no one
even knew that having sex caused pregnancy. People lived in small villages
or groups. Females would be friendly to men (have sex) and men would give
them things. Yes, it is the oldest profession lol Actually, nothing has
changed, it's a female's Nature.
said Jim Brusilovsky of Chains-and-charms.com, a
> Philadelphia-based jewelry chain. "I haven't seen it coming from the
> industry."
>
> Michael Toback, a jewelry supplier in Manhattan's diamond district,
> traces the practice to a new posture of assertiveness by women. "You
> know, 'Honey, you wanted this child as much as I did. So I want
> this,'" he said.
Men very rarely want children.
>
> A more likely explanation is that men are now simply more aware of and
> sympathetic to the plight of their pregnant partners, given their
> increasing tendency to attend childbirth classes and help in the
> actual delivery. "I think husbands are more involved with the prenatal
> process," said Dr. Philippe Girerd, an obstetrician in Richmond, Va.
> "Women go through back pain, morning sickness, stress and so on. We
> just sit around and take the credit. I think a lot of 21st century
> husbands are a little more in touch with that."
He means touched in the head and pussified.
>
> Certainly Dr. Girerd is. When his wife, Chris Cavan, gave birth to
> their son and daughter, he gave her a ring and a watch.
>
> "I could care less about the jewelry industry," Dr. Girerd said. "For
> me, it was acknowledging everything my wife had been through."
These men have low self esteem.
>
> The popularity of push presents has generated a backlash among some
> couples, who decry the implicit materialism.
>
> "This isn't the time to give a $200 piece of jewelry," said Rhonda
> Grote, president of ThinkThoughtful.com, an online gift consulting
> company in Bradenton, Fla. "I do not think that because a woman has
> had a baby she requires a Tiffany & Company item. She requires help,
> love and emotional support."
That's what we keep the grandmothers around for. Otherwise, they'd be on an
iceflow waiting for the polar bear.
>
> Ms. Grote suggested that new fathers should instead consider
> performing domestic chores, hiring a cleaning service,
Egad! Where do these people live? At Windsor Castle? That they need help
cleaning a house.
or otherwise
> provide extra assistance for the new mother.
>
> Ray Mears of Grand Haven, Mich., didn't give his wife, Beth, gifts for
> any of their three children, the most recent of them in July. And
> that's fine with both of them. "It's a really bizarre and unnecessary
> thing for a woman to expect," Ms. Mears said. "For one thing, lots of
> people are giving gifts to the mom, baby and entire family. Also,
> there's a lot going on when a new baby is expected. It's just not a
> nice time for a woman to demand that her partner get creative and
> think of 'the perfect gift.'"
>
> MICHELLE ALLEN of Los Angeles originally heard about push presents
> from a friend who had received one. When she became pregnant, she
> began dropping hints. "I knew what I wanted, which is very awful," she
> admitted. "But my husband is a very romantic guy."
>
> True to his romantic nature, Eric Allen obliged his wife with a
> gemstone-studded ring for each of their two children - Lara, born in
> July 2004, and Dashiell, in October 2006.
>
> "I wear those rings every day," Ms. Allen said. "They symbolize my
> kids.
And what do the kids symbolise?
There's something about them that's even more weighty than my
> wedding band."
Yeah, they're probably worth more lol
>
> Although jewelry is the most common push present, virtually anything
> heartfelt will suffice. Will Murphy of Haverhill, Mass., gave his
> wife, Grace, a Louis Vuitton diaper bag to mark the August arrival of
> their son, Liam. David Samson of San Francisco gave his wife, Renée, a
> metal sculpture in May to celebrate the birth of their daughter,
> Elisheva. He even installed some new lighting to complement it.
>
> When Tom and Dana Wiley of Dunlap, Ill., had their third child, a
> daughter named McKenna, in September, Mr. Wiley bought the family a
> hot tub.
He should have bought that hot tub first. Put his pregnant wife into it and
turned up the heat :o)
>
> "It was a cumulative gift," Ms. Wiley said. "With three, we have
> become homebodies anyway so now we can enjoy it."
Yep, he's come to heel and is pussified.
>
> In general, women enlighten their men about push presents, not the
> other way around.
Surprise surprise.
Chris Beggini, a 43-year-old mutual fund manager in
> Radnor, Pa., didn't know about the practice until his wife, Jennifer,
> straightened him out. "We talked about how she had nine months of
> difficulty, and 'Aren't I the good soldier?' blah blah blah," he
> recalled.
>
> So when the Begginis begat Abigail in 1999, Ellie
This guy must read the bible a lot. Too bad he reads the wrong parts. He
should read the parts about a wife's duties to her husband.
in 2002, and Julia
> last year, Mr. Beggini responded with earrings, a bracelet and what he
> jokingly calls a "suffer ring."
Except he's the one who will be suffering paying for it lol
>
> "You have to keep mama happy," he said.
Sure pussy.
date: Sat, 08 Dec 2007 05:19:19 GMT
author: Avenger
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