I am currently going through the very early stages of a split with my
wife of 12 years.
We have 2 children (ages 6 & 8) which my wife is currently not
allowing me access to.
She claims they are traumatised by our arguments and are now scared to
see me!
See says that I have no claims on the property until the children are
16.

Can someone advise if the above is true, we have a property valued at
approx. £300,000
with only a £50,000 mortgage outstanding. Additionally, we have a flat
which is currently rented out which is worth approx £100,000 (no
mortgage)

My wife and I both work full-time and we both are paid approx the same
salary (£35,000 each).

She has indicated that she wishes us to go through a mediation process
to sort out a) any access to my children and b) the finances.

I am currently lodging at a friends house and was wondering if anyone
can advise what , very roughly, I might expect out of this. I realise
Solicitors are an obvious option, but would appreciate any advice
anyone could give me regarding this.

Kind Regards..

On 4 Jan, 09:32, "LYNN MALONE"  wrote:
> I am currently going through the very early stages of a split with my
> wife of 12 years.
> We have 2 children (ages 6 & 8) which my wife is currently not
> allowing me access to.
> She claims they are traumatised by our arguments and are now scared to
> see me!
> See says that I have no claims on the property until the children are
> 16.
>
> Can someone advise if the above is true, we have a property valued at
> approx. £300,000
> with only a £50,000 mortgage outstanding. Additionally, we have a flat
> which is currently rented out which is worth approx £100,000 (no
> mortgage)
>
> My wife and I both work full-time and we both are paid approx the same
> salary (£35,000 each).
>
> She has indicated that she wishes us to go through a mediation process
> to sort out a) any access to my children and b) the finances.
>
> I am currently lodging at a friends house and was wondering if anyone
> can advise what , very roughly, I might expect out of this. I realise
> Solicitors are an obvious option, but would appreciate any advice
> anyone could give me regarding this.
>
> Kind Regards..

My experience is very limited but I'll tell you where I think you
stand based on my own experiences.

If your wife has care and control of the kids, she'll be awarded
everything. She'll get complete ownership of the house, regardless of
the amount of equity left in it. You will get absolutely nothing at
all.

You will have absolutely no claim on the property, even when the kids
reach 16.

On top of that, you'll be hammered for a huge chunk of your earnings,
despite the fact that your ex wife has benefited immensly from the
equity in your property.

I might be wrong, but this is what happened to me.

You need a solicitor.

Gary.