Hi to those that recognise me and those that don't. I'm writing as I feel in 
need of some direction

I've just come back from a two week trip sating with a friend with my 3 year 
partner. I fell very ill whilst were away.

My partner has said last night she cannot go on seeing me anymore, as it has 
become too difficult.

I am totally lost, thoughts of suicide have entered my mind. Though they are 
normally blanked out pretty quickly.

I feel empty inside and without a reason to go on anymore.

- Adam

"Adam Del-Monte"  wrote in message 
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> Hi to those that recognise me and those that don't. I'm writing as I feel 
> in need of some direction
>
> I've just come back from a two week trip sating with a friend with my 3 
> year partner. I fell very ill whilst were away.
>
> My partner has said last night she cannot go on seeing me anymore, as it 
> has become too difficult.

I'm sorry to hear about that Adam. As if emotional things aren't hard enough 
to cope with without CFS!

I sometimes worry about my relationship. It's being going for 5­½ years now 
(my CFS for about 4½) and because I'm tired all the time I'm also grumpy 
much of the time. I don't mean to, but I snap at her quite a bit (verbally) 
and am generally moody and introverted. I don't think she minds that I'm 
limited in what I can do in general life or when I get attacks of symptoms 
but I feel my overall moodiness is wearing at our relationship.

I think all you can do is try and turn this event into a positive 
determination that you absolutely will find a cure. I am a firm believer 
that there is a cure for all disease and one by one they will be found - it 
is only a matter of time. With CFS, we already know that some people do 
recover. I know it wont feel like it right now, but perhaps without a 
partner you will be able to focus better on trying to find it. To me, a 
relationship has pros and cons with CFS. On the pros side is the support and 
love, but on the cons side are those times when you force yourself to go out 
with her even though you know it's expending energy that you don't really 
have, or going out and eating/drinking things that will give you symptoms 
later, or the general sense of obligation you feel towards pulling your own 
weight within the relationship.

There is no consolation at times like this, but all the best in dealing with 
it.

Ian

Thanks for the positives Ian, I guess that will have to be it. There will be 
more chance in me 'finding a cure',though right now I would swap that for 
anything to have the relationship back.

- Adam
"IanW"  wrote in message 
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> "Adam Del-Monte"  wrote in message 
> news:dq2e55$4n$1@nwrdmz01.dmz.ncs.ea.ibs-infra.bt.com...
>> Hi to those that recognise me and those that don't. I'm writing as I feel 
>> in need of some direction
>>
>> I've just come back from a two week trip sating with a friend with my 3 
>> year partner. I fell very ill whilst were away.
>>
>> My partner has said last night she cannot go on seeing me anymore, as it 
>> has become too difficult.
>
> I'm sorry to hear about that Adam. As if emotional things aren't hard 
> enough to cope with without CFS!
>
> I sometimes worry about my relationship. It's being going for 5­½ years 
> now (my CFS for about 4½) and because I'm tired all the time I'm also 
> grumpy much of the time. I don't mean to, but I snap at her quite a bit 
> (verbally) and am generally moody and introverted. I don't think she minds 
> that I'm limited in what I can do in general life or when I get attacks of 
> symptoms but I feel my overall moodiness is wearing at our relationship.
>
> I think all you can do is try and turn this event into a positive 
> determination that you absolutely will find a cure. I am a firm believer 
> that there is a cure for all disease and one by one they will be found - 
> it is only a matter of time. With CFS, we already know that some people do 
> recover. I know it wont feel like it right now, but perhaps without a 
> partner you will be able to focus better on trying to find it. To me, a 
> relationship has pros and cons with CFS. On the pros side is the support 
> and love, but on the cons side are those times when you force yourself to 
> go out with her even though you know it's expending energy that you don't 
> really have, or going out and eating/drinking things that will give you 
> symptoms later, or the general sense of obligation you feel towards 
> pulling your own weight within the relationship.
>
> There is no consolation at times like this, but all the best in dealing 
> with it.
>
> Ian
>

> Hi to those that recognise me and those that don't. I'm writing as I feel
in
> need of some direction
>
> I've just come back from a two week trip sating with a friend with my 3
year
> partner. I fell very ill whilst were away.
>
> My partner has said last night she cannot go on seeing me anymore, as it
has
> become too difficult.
>
> I am totally lost, thoughts of suicide have entered my mind. Though they
are
> normally blanked out pretty quickly.
>
> I feel empty inside and without a reason to go on anymore.

Hi Adam, My partner of 9yrs left me beginning of November after a year of
being so angry and leaving me for the odd night to stay at his mothers. he
couldn't take it anymore and i guess he felt powerless. I have gone through
so many emotions and still am. However I also feel some relief that I don't
have to worry about his depression anymore.
I am also breaking free from many relationships that are not nurturing and
focusing on the one that matters.......with ME!!

I know its hard because I am still upset with my break up but I know I have
to focus on my wellbeing.

Allow yourself to go through the process and the emotions but also know that
not all is lost or hopeless even if it feels like it now!

Please stay positive :o)
best wishes
Dawn

> Please stay positive :o)

I'll try to - Mark.
> best wishes
> Dawn
>
>