...is supposed to be a hobby, I know, but really it's beginning to take all 
gander's spare time up!

He was out at the Unit where they store the minibus and caravan today, 
altering the doors so they are tall enough to get the minibus and caravan 
inside. They've had to move from the Unit they had to another one on the 
site because someone wanted to pay real money to use it ;-))

He managed to get the help of 3 other Team members so it wasn't as bad as it 
might have been but he knows nothing about woodw*rk and neither did the 
other fellahs! Still, just another visit tomorrow and it'll be finished and 
the Minibus and caravan will be safe again.

But he was there before I woke up this morning and stayed there doing all 
that woodw*rk until it was time to come home for tea. Now we've eaten tea 
he's off out again only this time it's climbing training! And it's miles 
away in Liverpool! He won't be home till around midnight so that's the whole 
day and evening dedicated to S&R matters.

Guess who's getting a little sick of it? Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday 
evenings he's out training and then there's other things like tidying up the 
Unit and the vehicles. His time is not his own these days! I don't think 
he'd be able to fit a call-out in if one happened!

I'm just a little fed up, I married him all those years ago so we could be 
together but that seems to be not happening suddenly:-(

Thanks for listening :-))
I'm happy again now :-))
-- 
Pam the goose

Pam the goose wrote:
> ...is supposed to be a hobby, I know, but really it's beginning to
> take all gander's spare time up!
>
> He was out at the Unit where they store the minibus and caravan today,
> altering the doors so they are tall enough to get the minibus and
> caravan inside. They've had to move from the Unit they had to another
> one on the site because someone wanted to pay real money to use it
> ;-))
> He managed to get the help of 3 other Team members so it wasn't as
> bad as it might have been but he knows nothing about woodw*rk and
> neither did the other fellahs! Still, just another visit tomorrow and
> it'll be finished and the Minibus and caravan will be safe again.
>
> But he was there before I woke up this morning and stayed there doing
> all that woodw*rk until it was time to come home for tea. Now we've
> eaten tea he's off out again only this time it's climbing training!
> And it's miles away in Liverpool! He won't be home till around
> midnight so that's the whole day and evening dedicated to S&R matters.
>
> Guess who's getting a little sick of it? Tuesday, Wednesday and
> Thursday evenings he's out training and then there's other things
> like tidying up the Unit and the vehicles. His time is not his own
> these days! I don't think he'd be able to fit a call-out in if one
> happened!
> I'm just a little fed up, I married him all those years ago so we
> could be together but that seems to be not happening suddenly:-(
>
> Thanks for listening :-))
> I'm happy again now :-))

hugs {{{pam}}}
I know you already know this, but at least he's out doing something 
worthwhile, he could be one of those men who vanish at the drop of a hat to 
the pub or sport. I appreciate this doesnt make it easier to cope and you 
miss him, but without people like Ray and their dedication where would we 
be? It's about time we also appreciated the sacrifice of the partners of 
volunteers
j
x

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http://www.robgreenmusic.110mb.com/
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"jackie green"  wrote in message 
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>
> hugs {{{pam}}}
> I know you already know this, but at least he's out doing something 
> worthwhile, he could be one of those men who vanish at the drop of a hat 
> to the pub or sport. I appreciate this doesnt make it easier to cope and 
> you miss him, but without people like Ray and their dedication where would 
> we be? It's about time we also appreciated the sacrifice of the partners 
> of volunteers

Thanks, jackie :-)
I actually *was* happy once I got it off my chest, I've remembered every now 
and then that he's not here but I haven't used rude words about the reason 
he's not here ;-))

Yes, I guess I'm lucky he doesn't do those things, I know that.
It's just such a shame that Meg's begun to miss him, too, she's having to 
"look after Mum" too often in her view ..LOL
-- 
Pam the goose

Pam the goose wrote:
> ...is supposed to be a hobby, I know, but really it's beginning to
> take all gander's spare time up!
snippy

I can imagine how you feel. Probably not made better by poor weather and 
nights drawing in. Maybe it would help in some small way, that one day he 
may be responsible for saving a life. Put that on the other side of the 
scales.
Keep smiling :)
-- 
Pete C
London UK

"Pete C"  wrote in message 
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> Pam the goose wrote:
>> ...is supposed to be a hobby, I know, but really it's beginning to
>> take all gander's spare time up!
> snippy
>
> I can imagine how you feel. Probably not made better by poor weather and 
> nights drawing in. Maybe it would help in some small way, that one day he 
> may be responsible for saving a life. Put that on the other side of the 
> scales.
> Keep smiling :)

They've actually done that on more than one occasion, Pete.
Yes, I know, I was feeling sorry for myself cos they expect *him* to do all 
the bits to keep them going as a Team.
Do you know, he's the only one qualified to drive that Minibus as it pulls 
the caravan?
Amazed me, that did.
Now I know why he takes such good care of them both ...LOL

Yes, I was feeling down.
Not now though, as soon as I shared my misery with you it disappeared.
I'm back to being that silly goose ;-))
Thanks for your care :-)
-- 
Pam the goose

Pam the goose wrote:
> "Pete C"  wrote in message
> news:6i8b8fFonrnnU1@mid.individual.net...
>> Pam the goose wrote:
>>> ...is supposed to be a hobby, I know, but really it's beginning to
>>> take all gander's spare time up!
>> snippy
>>
>> I can imagine how you feel. Probably not made better by poor weather
>> and nights drawing in. Maybe it would help in some small way, that
>> one day he may be responsible for saving a life. Put that on the
>> other side of the scales.
>> Keep smiling :)
>
> They've actually done that on more than one occasion, Pete.
> Yes, I know, I was feeling sorry for myself cos they expect *him* to
> do all the bits to keep them going as a Team.
> Do you know, he's the only one qualified to drive that Minibus as it
> pulls the caravan?
> Amazed me, that did.
> Now I know why he takes such good care of them both ...LOL
>
> Yes, I was feeling down.
> Not now though, as soon as I shared my misery with you it disappeared.
> I'm back to being that silly goose ;-))
> Thanks for your care :-)

Sleep well silly goose :)
-- 
Pete C
London UK

"Pete C"  wrote in message 
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>
> Sleep well silly goose :)

rofl
Thanks, I will if I have the courage to go up the stairs with only Meg to 
rescue me if I don't make it!
My legs are still not truly under my control and it's silly to take chances.
What the 'eck, this silly goose will try it ;-)))
-- 
Pam the goose

Pam the goose wrote:
> "jackie green"  wrote in message
> news:fEAvk.52542$E41.51426@text.news.virginmedia.com...
>>
>> hugs {{{pam}}}
>> I know you already know this, but at least he's out doing something
>> worthwhile, he could be one of those men who vanish at the drop of a
>> hat to the pub or sport. I appreciate this doesnt make it easier to
>> cope and you miss him, but without people like Ray and their
>> dedication where would we be? It's about time we also appreciated
>> the sacrifice of the partners of volunteers
>
> Thanks, jackie :-)
> I actually *was* happy once I got it off my chest, I've remembered
> every now and then that he's not here but I haven't used rude words
> about the reason he's not here ;-))
>
> Yes, I guess I'm lucky he doesn't do those things, I know that.
> It's just such a shame that Meg's begun to miss him, too, she's
> having to "look after Mum" too often in her view ..LOL

In a similar but much less important way, it used to annoy me when Rob was 
in the band the way  weekends were never ours as he always had to 
clock-watch to make sure he was home in time to get his kit together to bog 
off to somewhere or other. Some days it was fine as I went with him and got 
a night out, but noever until I die will I forget my anxiety when I was in 
my last couple of weeks before having Alex when he left me alone in the 
house, mum had Rebecca in case I had to do the mad dash, I always had the 
number of the club he was playing at and he was rarely more than a couple of 
hours away, but knowing his OCD he'd have probably insisted on packing all 
his drums away before coming to my side, lol.
Luckily a problem never arose, but I hated every second, I was very clingy.
and you're not silly, as I saw you put elsewhere, no matter how important 
Ray's S&R is, you're more than entitled to opinions on how it affects you!

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"Pam the goose"  wrote in message 
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> ...is supposed to be a hobby, I know, but really it's beginning to take 
> all gander's spare time up!

<snipped the details>

Oh dear, poor you.  These things do have a habit of taking over, don't they? 
At least you know where he is and what he is up to <g>

> Thanks for listening :-))
> I'm happy again now :-))

That's good then.  Nice to know you can talk to friends when you feel down

-- 
Barb

"Pam the goose"  wrote in message 
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> I actually *was* happy once I got it off my chest,

A good rant usually helps :-)

> I've remembered every now and then that he's not here but I haven't used 
> rude words about the reason he's not here ;-))

Can I offer you another slant on it ? It's a compliment to you and the way 
you are now coping on your own that Gander can do these things. I can 
understand why you get fed up but it's far better that you are now able to 
manage so well.
>
> Yes, I guess I'm lucky he doesn't do those things, I know that.
> It's just such a shame that Meg's begun to miss him, too, she's having to 
> "look after Mum" too often in her view ..LOL

Gerraway Meg loves looking after mum and being all protective :-)
-- 
Sandra
People will forget what you said.
People will forget what you did, but
People will never forget how you made them feel.

"Rabbit"  wrote in message 
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>
> Can I offer you another slant on it ? It's a compliment to you and the way 
> you are now coping on your own that Gander can do these things. I can 
> understand why you get fed up but it's far better that you are now able to 
> manage so well.

Now that's a nice slant:-)
I've spent the last couple of hours trying to be positive and not miserable 
cos he's there doing that door again.
It's rotten to be miserable cos he's in difficulty and thinking of asking a 
joiner neighbour to come and have a look at it.
But if I look at it your way, yes, it is because I am coping he can go do 
it!
He waited till he's given me 2 PKs and I'd got downstairs today before he 
went so at least I didn't have to try the stairs wondering what I'd do if I 
fell LOL
Yes, that's given me the push I needed to get through today, thanks Sandra 
:-)

> Gerraway Meg loves looking after mum and being all protective :-)

Yes, but I wish she wouldn't growl - well, her version of growling ;-) - 
every time someone puts something through the door.
When Ray's put her on guard she seems to think that nobody has to come near 
the house let alone near me, ;-))
-- 
Pam the goose

"Pam the goose"  wrote in message 
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> "Rabbit"  wrote in message 
> news:6i9qgpFpm7loU1@mid.individual.net...
>>
>> Can I offer you another slant on it ? It's a compliment to you and the 
>> way you are now coping on your own that Gander can do these things. I can 
>> understand why you get fed up but it's far better that you are now able 
>> to manage so well.
>
> Now that's a nice slant:-)
> I've spent the last couple of hours trying to be positive and not 
> miserable cos he's there doing that door again.
> It's rotten to be miserable cos he's in difficulty and thinking of asking 
> a joiner neighbour to come and have a look at it.

And being a typical male that'll be hard for him to do and I'll bet he'll 
only ask for help as a last resort ;-)

> But if I look at it your way, yes, it is because I am coping he can go do 
> it!
> He waited till he's given me 2 PKs and I'd got downstairs today before he 
> went so at least I didn't have to try the stairs wondering what I'd do if 
> I fell LOL
> Yes, that's given me the push I needed to get through today, thanks Sandra 
> :-)

You'll manage OK :-)

>> Gerraway Meg loves looking after mum and being all protective :-)
>
> Yes, but I wish she wouldn't growl - well, her version of growling ;-) - 
> every time someone puts something through the door.
> When Ray's put her on guard she seems to think that nobody has to come 
> near the house let alone near me, ;-))

Yebbut until she gets to smell them and know they are friendly she's just 
letting everybody know that there's a fierce guard dog present ;-)
-- 
Sandra
People will forget what you said.
People will forget what you did, but
People will never forget how you made them feel.

"Rabbit"  wrote in message 
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>
> And being a typical male that'll be hard for him to do and I'll bet he'll 
> only ask for help as a last resort ;-)

Absolutely!
I suggested he went across and asked John before he left but, oh no, he 
would wait till he saw how he got on today!

> You'll manage OK :-)

Looks like I am doing but I've still got to pick up the courage to tackle 
the stairs to get washed and dressed.
Fancy me still being in nighty and dressing gown at this hour of day! But 
it's safest in the circumstances.

> Yebbut until she gets to smell them and know they are friendly she's just 
> letting everybody know that there's a fierce guard dog present ;-)

Yes, I understand that point of view.
Unfortunately Meg's idea of fierce is using her tongue to lick people to 
death ;-))
-- 
Pam the goose

"Pam the goose"  wrote in message 
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> "Rabbit"  wrote in message 
> news:6ia29iFotd8eU1@mid.individual.net...
>>
>> And being a typical male that'll be hard for him to do and I'll bet he'll 
>> only ask for help as a last resort ;-)
>
> Absolutely!
> I suggested he went across and asked John before he left but, oh no, he 
> would wait till he saw how he got on today!

Typical cussed male ;-)
>
>> You'll manage OK :-)
>
> Looks like I am doing but I've still got to pick up the courage to tackle 
> the stairs to get washed and dressed.
> Fancy me still being in nighty and dressing gown at this hour of day! But 
> it's safest in the circumstances.

Are those nice new rails not much help then ?
>
>> Yebbut until she gets to smell them and know they are friendly she's just 
>> letting everybody know that there's a fierce guard dog present ;-)
>
> Yes, I understand that point of view.
> Unfortunately Meg's idea of fierce is using her tongue to lick people to 
> death ;-))

I know that and you know that but a stranger wouldn't ;-) 'Sides I reckon 
that docile as Meg is she'd still put up a good fight if she thought you 
were in danger. I've seen it before.
-- 
Sandra
People will forget what you said.
People will forget what you did, but
People will never forget how you made them feel.

"Rabbit"  wrote in message 
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> Typical cussed male ;-)

Here it is, 20 past 5 and still no sign of him!
He did arrive a few hours back to collect some hinges but he must be still 
putting them on ;-)

> Are those nice new rails not much help then ?

Oh, yes, they're brilliant.
But there are times when I find it impossible to lift my leg high enough to 
get to the next step.
Those times if I'm on my own I simply don't even try to go up them, rails or 
not!

> I know that and you know that but a stranger wouldn't ;-) 'Sides I reckon 
> that docile as Meg is she'd still put up a good fight if she thought you 
> were in danger. I've seen it before.

I reckon she would if I was frightened.
She's very conscious of my feelings.
-- 
Pam the goose

And now it's 10 to six and he's just arrrived home and nipped out to the 
grass with Meg.

Even people who w*rk at the j*b don't spend as much time on it as he has in 
the last two days!

So I'm getting my wish - when he's changed his filthy clothes we're off to 
the pub for tea ;-)))
-- 
Pam the goose

"Pam the goose"  wrote in message 
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> And now it's 10 to six and he's just arrrived home and nipped out to the 
> grass with Meg.
>
> Even people who w*rk at the j*b don't spend as much time on it as he has 
> in the last two days!

It's hard work being retired.  I keep telling folks that

>
> So I'm getting my wish - when he's changed his filthy clothes we're off to 
> the pub for tea ;-)))

Ah well there is compensation then.  Enjoy

-- 
Barb