I know this may not go down well with a lot of people.  I have just turned
50. I married in my 40's and  thought I probably would not have children
because I was too old.  We have used contraception. However, I keep seeing
that older women and even post menopausal women are having babies and
thought I might give this a try and maybe I am not too old and maybe I could
have a child and I should not  have given up.

I have read that it is possible to have a child in later life and they do
turn out healthy  and even that some women are genetically programmed for
it. How can I find out if I am one? Or if I have a chance?

I know my fathers mother and two of his sisters had children late in life
( mother was 54, sisters 52 and 50 respectively but they were not first
children, although in both cases  there was a big gap between the previous
child and the second one. In my  fathers case  he was the youngest of 9 and
was 12 years younger than his nearest  sister).

I am not menopausal. Everything appears normal and works like clockwork. You
could literally set the time and date by me.  However, I do not have any
idea about my fertility.  I know I need to get this right pretty quickly if
I am going to conceive because time cannot be on my side at my age.

Has anyone any good ideas for helping me get pregnant ( obviously I do plan
on having suitable relations!) working out whether I am fertile and when my
best chance of conceiving might be?

Any help would be welcome. Please dont criticise or judge though.