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The message below [not included here] was sent to one of my email
addresses, stating that John Bradshaw Snr. wishes contact with me.
I believe it's a cynical marketing ploy by Twitter.

I've done what I was able to do - with that Google Documents
presentation and the "Collective Mental Illness" thread, as my
contribution to societal healing.
It would have been nice if John Bradshaw Snr., author of "Family
Secrets" etc., had discussed the way forward with me, perhaps stating
his preference for continuing to do what he is good at - leading
people in the right direction in the context of the present sick
societal rules, while not yet broaching the questions relating to the
invalid nature of our societal rules, which were imposed in a
forgotten survivalist emergency for the purpose of making us lonely
and miserable, and hence better at fighting wars - which  means our
societal rules have no validity and need to be abolished just as soon
as we can arrange it.

The writings of Dr Niles Newton on the sexual nature of the mother-
infant relationship came to my notice only recently, and are useful
for focusing people's minds. But then that is the impasse, because we
learned NOT to focus our minds as a survival mechanism in those
ancient wars for survival which made us what we are, because to focus
our minds would have meant certain death in that dire emergency. I
though we might have the maturity to take a look at ourselves now and
correct course, especially for the sake of the younger generation, to
whom we are bequeathing pain-generating societal arrangements,
poisoned bodies and a ruined biosphere................. but it's not
yet time for healing.


I'm not asking anyone to contact me (unless they want to). People like
John B. are free to use my writings for a future book or DVD as they
wish, without mentioning me. In other words, I'm saying that all my
writings are free of copyright.

-Peter Newman, Yorkshire, England.
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"Know Yourself, Heal Yourself"
http://docs.google.com/View?docid=dddp6bt4_829zpt8ffd

"Collective Mental Illness" - quoting Dr Niles Newton on sex between
mother and baby:
http://groups.google.com/group/us.legal/msg/fde3e9567813bc7e?&q=collective+mental+illness

To one of the Ladies who replied to "Careless Hands" -

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Dear Madam,

Regarding what you said - that there are higher things to aspire to
than a certain something that I often emphasise...
Yes, there are other things to aspire to............

......... but

...........if we haven't got the mother-infant relationship right,
then we are on a shaky foundation for whatever else we aspire to.
People who say 'the past is gone / forget the past' are frightened of
the past, unable to 'process' it.
We are standing on our past. The past is the ground under our feet.
Infancy is the most formative era of our lives, and that includes both
the infancy of the species and the infancy of the personality.
A good metaphor would be to say that our adult life is the FRUIT
growing on the TREE  of our childhood/adolescence, all growing out of
the SOIL of infancy.
If the soil is defective, the tree and the fruit will be defective
too.
So I'm saying something useful when I emphasise that. The logic of my
analysis is faultless, and the emotional states of infancy can be
recovered and their full significance understood, by re-enacting
infancy in every detail with a surrogate mother.

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[Just one practical note for those who may be repelled by the thought:
it is not necessary to wear diapers [nappies in UK] when doing the
reparenting exercises. I didn't do that with my surrogate mothers in
my two highly instructive episodes of reparenting exercises. But still
you will need to include in those healing exercises the recreation and
reliving of the toileting aspect of the mother-infant relationship in
a realistic, physical way, including the anal caresses with loving eye
contact, if you are to recover fully the memories of infancy and grasp
their significance. I can give extra guidance if anyone asks me.]
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In general, men are more receptive to such a suggestion than women,
because in general men suffer more emotional deprivation and
humiliation as they emerge from infancy and the mother goes into
reverse, concealing her abuse of her baby under the smokescreen of
toxic shame. Then the amnesia kicks in, and we don't know whether
we're coming or going from that moment on.
Moreover, there is an impasse here, because the recovery of the
memories of infancy leaves us 'high and dry.

The present civilisation - especially our bogus 'therapy' racket -
does not even recognise the existence of the authentic emotional
states of human infants. So if you recover those vital, precious,
potentially healing memories, you will have nowhere to go with your
sanity in an insane civilisation.

If you approach one of these fake 'therapists' with your emerging
sanity, the only response you'll get from them will be fear and toxic
shame, to drag you back down to the fake 'therapist's' level of
dissociation and compartmentalisation.

The aim of the fake 'therapists' is always to legitimise an
illegitimate civilisation, to pretend an insane civilisation is a sane
civiliation, and to drag you back into it and persuade you that our
aim should be to become 'well adjusted' to the collective insanity
around us. That is what 'therapists' are for.
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What can be done, then, to move toward healing our tragic civilsation?
Well, eventually a significant number of us will become weary of the
long sorrow and will become willing to embrace healing.
We will at last understand the need to keep away from the fake
'therapists,' the need instead for a new kind of communal love between
us, to supply the necessary emotional safety net for one another as we
recover the memories of infancy, both the infancy of the personality
and the infancy of the tribe as shown in the geological record...
In that way, the journey to healing and the destination of healing
will merge and become one. The journey IS the destination, when we
follow the right road.
I do not expect it in my lifetime, and I fear it may be tens of
thousands of years into a very sad future when the rest of you finally
become weary of the long sorrow and want to embrace the simple healing
formula as I do now.
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Careless Hands
http://docs.google.com/View?id=dddp6bt4_187gpmt3sjh